Why do you think it is that there are not many female members of CM?

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    Ease up, man. The discussion is simply about why there aren't more women on here and people are just tossing out their best guesses.

    Nobody said there isn't plenty of room for all the members here and their individual ways of enjoying chastity.

    That's one of the things that is so great about chastity, there is no hard definition of what it has to be. If feminization enhances the experience for you, I don't think anyone here is going to ask you to leave.

    My own comments were made with the view that if a lady that's on the fence about chastity visited here and every post she saw was in the extreme end of the spectrum she would probably be scared off.
     
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    Lucy, Amanda and few others have already nailed it, but I would add my two cents. I have very similar experience from a local forum about chastity. Too many fantasies, cuckold/chastity porn obsession, imposing their own fantasies into every thread, obsessive TV/CD fetishes, topping from the bottom, disrespect to women. Women as a tool of their fantasies. Inability to see chastity in wider - I would not afraid to say - "nonsexual" context.

    And dick pics all over.
     
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    I would also add that some of the comments about how many orgasms their wife has would probably intimidate a lot of ladies. Women have enough unrealistic expectations placed on them without having to feel like they need to become an orgasm machine.

    Orgasms don't come easily for my wife, and the first time I visited here and read about the dozens of orgasms that people's wives were having every day startled me. I still wonder how much of what I see on here is real, but I've gotten accustomed to it and it no longer bothers me.
     
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    So , Veronika has summed it up. In a nutshell.

    What if anything is to be done about it?
     
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    Seems that a few setting being changed would be the place to start ... Set the defaults to off for chat and for receiving PM's from others ... so at least they are not being over run while they lurk around and see if they have any interest.
     
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    Yes I'm sure having all the settings reduced back to nothing would be a grand solution.
     
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    The setting would be "people you follow only" ... this would allow them to make first contact
     
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    NNNnnnnoooo ... not all the settings for everyone ... the default setting for a new member when they create an account ... you know getting to know the place settings
     
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    As a lurker with only a few posts I am far from any advices, but... Now when Lucy is admin, a private "secret" keyholder forum would be nice. And invitation would be only on Lucy's consideration to avoid influx of new "female" members to get access.
     
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    I am afraid the only "solution" would be far more "aggressive" moderation of threads and it is always time consuming and difficult. But as I said, i am far from giving any advices here.
     
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    Actually everything is in place already. All that needs to be done is to terminate the male mods access to that area.
    Then it would feel less like we were on display in a gallery.
     
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    I have been around sex related sites since before the web when it was call Bulletin Boards which I operated with a lightning fast 300 baud modem. Women do not tend to be visually stimulated or want to read sex stuff. My wife has done a lot sex wise but she does not like sex forums. She is a very private person who refuses to even setup a Facebook page that no one could comment on. Our ex girlfriend is the same way. She used to teach teachers how to use a computer and the web and yet she has zero interest in reading or viewing sex online. That is why porn and sex forums are filled with guys. The porn industry has been trying to crack that nut for a long time but it is still men who buy their product.

    My wife would like a Keyholder Mansion where she could discuss Bingo, MahJong and complain about husbands. She is a doer, not a sayer or reader. Real story, as always, when I relocated here I made two friends who played pool with me every other day and also went out for drinks once in awhile. They liked to talk about fetish sex so I joined in. Then I found out that one is a registered sex offender and the other was arrested last year for flashing old ladies at the community pool and in front of a department store. I no longer have a friend.
     
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    Vinny what on earth do you think female keyholders here discuss?
     
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    You perfectly described the female's inner sexual thought and fantasy life. My wife only thinks about sex during sex. It rarely resides anywhere close to her normal thought life.
     
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    it seems that lots are very keen to hang onto their crotch avatars even if it puts women off joining the site or hanging around for long.
     
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    Which fits perfectly into my theory that many guys with interest into chastity do not need women at all.They only need objects who will fits into their fetishes.
     
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    I do tend to notice that the chat room tends to revolve around the weather, coffee in the morning, the all around inability to get going, and certain household tasks that need to be done.

    It's very similar to a conversation with my great grandmother. Except she adds that I really should come and visit.

    As soon as a female leaves the room, it eventually gets back to chastity, relationships, and different sexual aspects of their relationships. So I would agree, that in general, they are not in the mood to discuss the sexual/nonsexual nature of this site very often.
     
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    Indeed. And when a mod or two decide to take a more aggressive stance on the matter they get backlash from others in the mod team even, let alone in the wider forum.
    It seems there'll be little way forward with it.
     
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    Surely it's not a lot to ask males on a male chastity site to be more considerate to women?
     
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    Well considering this topic has been "done to death" on many occasions over the years then perhaps it is too much to ask.
     
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    I thought greater consideration of the needs and preferences of women and an advanced awareness of everything that entails is among the primary reasons for a male to undertake a life of chastity in the first place. We should all be focused on what is best for women. Even on the topic of avatars. It doesn't seem too difficult really. Hopefully chastity makes us more respectful to all the women in our lives ... and that very much includes all the truly wonderful women to be found on CM.
     
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    Very well spoken, if anyone should be considerate to You Ladies it should be us boys that are locked up with a Lovely Lady holding the key. I've been active hear since April and I would say (in my opinion ) that a lot of the men that come to this site Don't have anyone but themselves holding the KEY. the regulars that are continually active are the ones that do have a KH. And you are right @Mistress Lucy we tend to hold on to our crotch Avatars just like we tend to touch our own crotch a lot. I've changed my Avatar from my crotch, to my bum in panties to a Rose Tattoo I hope this will help just alittle bit to keep You and some of the other Lovely Ladies here. I for one really appreciate your participation. Thank You
     
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    The lack of consideration to others and the pursuit of ones own goals is pretty much how society is now, not completely, but certainly in the main....why should it be any different here?
     
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    I'm glad you're still here :)
     
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    thank you :)
     
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