This sums up a lot of females experiences in the fetish scene

@Thatguyontheinternet , great idea. There is an instagram model who does just that lol.
http://fox2now.com/2016/01/29/model-has-perfect-revenge-men-sending-her-obscene-images/

 

Mistress amanda has broken me. Need help

 

@Amanda's bitch Sophie I am sorry to hear that , but how does it relate to the rest of the thread ??

 

@Thatguyontheinternet, I'm not so sure it would shame them. Quite the contrary, I think they'd be clambering all over each other to get on the Wall Of Shame. It's kind of why they do it in the first place. They can have this Big Moment in their lives - like sending a pretty Lady something they see as really outrageous, anonymously - without actually having to go through with anything. The excitement, such as it is, is in getting noticed, not in actually doing the act or committing himself to the woman.

Once upon a time he probably would have flashed a pretty girl in the park. The internet makes the experience bigger and better and probably a whole lot safer for him.

It's unfortunate that the women we treasure here are targeted by them. I don't think they're going to go away anytime soon but it's probably counter-productive to keep feeding them oxygen.

So much for my Sidewalk Psychology Diploma!

 

Yes, I laughed at the video but sadly, there is too much truth in it and the examples provided by Ms. Lucy are vulgar, crude. and in terrible taste. Sadly, we live in an "all about me, me, me" society. Too often, no consideration of the thoughts and feelings of others is given while instant gratification is demanded. No matter the nature of a relationship, it will not be rewarding to both if there is no mutual respect. Lol, that's todays lecture from Aunt Jackie, I'll climb down from my soapbox.

 

Apologies to all...Miss Amanda waltzed into the room, grabbed my iPad and typed that. I asked her what she was doing, but she posted it anyway, then threw the iPad back at me. She's been a bit funny with me using the Internet recently. I'm not sure how to delete the whole post. Please ignore. Apologies once again.

 

@Amanda's bitch Sophie no apology needed , I just thought I had missed something , thanks for making things clear , as to deleting the post I don't think you can , take care

 

@Mistress Lucy I'm aware that on another forum you inquired what activity your minions could perform for you. My thought was to have them create a new web site specific for identifying the men who disrespect women like in the manner you've been experiencing (5,000+!! wow!!). Sort of similar to what @ineverknew shared with us above, how about all those disrespectful message get posted there with only 'your' info blocked out but NOT the offenders? Make it public knowledge that the individual has some growing up and learn some maturity to do. Heck, incorporate some advertising and you'd make a fortune from all those immature 'men'. Just a thought, with respect always.

 

Males like that are two a penny....

 

Does anybody read those? I just click accept, I wonder what they actually say?

 

I agree with you mostly.. Not so much bad manners as selfishly self absorbed simply seeing the other person as a means to fullfilling their fantasy without any consideration for the other persons needs/wants or fantasies. In other words reciprocation is not even a germ of a concept for them.

But I do not think that men generally see porn as degrading to women. I don't think most men see it as any more than something to enhance their usually solo masturbatory experience to help them get off and in some cases fuel their fantasises.

I do believe some people do regard porn as degrading for the participants.... and most likely it is going to be some women think it degrades women. Of course it rather depends on your interpretation of.. degrades. In reality would I want to have sex with a female porn actor. It is unlikely to be an option I 'd be faced with but on the whole I don't think I could so in that sense maybe women are degraded. But would an average woman really want to have sex with male porn actor .. I doubt that too.

 

@filltee , I mean its degrading to women in the sense that in most porn, not all, women are portrayed as mindless bimbos only their to serve mens needs. Obviously women are more then that, a lot more and they don't have the time or interest in portraying that. But if you watch enough of that I think it leads men to believe thats normal behavior with women. I also think its degrading in the sense that as you said there is no reciprocation. The female is only there to facilitate the male orgasm. The male only fleetingly tries to please the female.

 

When it starts to interfere with everyday life and causes a breakdown in normal and civil interactions with people?

 

@Mistress Lucy I am relatively new to the mansion. I've noticed some buzz around a few of your threads and @Administrator response. Obviously there is a history within CM predating my involvement. I preface all of the above to say what I'm asking isn't meant as reproach or attack, but genuine curiosity given the content of this thread. Are you a professional Mistress or an Amateur? The distinction not being level of competence, but financial.

 

Interesting discussion, thanks for illumination and sharing truth. I had an old friend of mine tell me something years ago that stuck with me.
He was a long timer in the BDSM scene, an amazing person, and submissive.

"True submission is giving your fantasy to a dominant woman and letting her use it in her own way". Makes sense.

 

Hey, I resemble that. Personally I got less kinky as I got older. My interest was mainly S&M and my old body and skin cannot take it anymore. I get scars from the most minor cuts now. I live among 130,000 seniors with more than half of that being men. Never heard the widows that date, mention that the old codgers are very kinky. However, many are on medications, have dementia or both. Plus there is a drinking culture here with happy hour all day long. Lots of drunk people doing stupid things here so it is possible that they do stupid things on the internet too.

 

I agree with what your saying, though I think it is rather dependent upon the type/nature of the porn you are choosing to watch.

On reflection it is true to say the majority of porn has a minimal story, if any, to put the people involved in the same place then usually its pretty male centric with the women becoming very stimulated within seconds from anything the guys do then quite quickly he gets to recieve oral until such time as they switch to PiV or PiA sex which ends in him pulling out to show his ejaculation. Often the guy is seen to switch around from receiving oral to PiV and PiA sex and back without ever wearing a condom or stopping to wash after anal. During which she will probably (and unrealistically) be seen to orgasm several times .. in a sense highlighting his prowess and justifying his (lack of) technique. Most porn is built upon variations of that scenario pretty boring really and in relation to this thread is actually degrading towards women in that no man ought to ever treat any woman that way whether it be within a long standing relationship or a one night stand.

I know I digress but....
Porn is intended to be, on the whole, just male masturbation fuel and not in anyway is it intended to be instructional. Unfortunately the less experienced the people watching this stuff the more instructional it actually is. Any inexperienced woman expecting that everything and ANYthing a guy wants to do to (rather than with) them will have her collapsing in waves of rapture is going to be sadly disappointed. Why any woman would want to hook up and stay with a young guy whose been living on a diet of the is stuff and acting accordingly is beyond me. But they do, for a while, which reinforces its validity as instructional material, whilst unintentionally emphasising the inadequacies of both males and females that do not fit into the typical but unrealistic 'porn' physiques. Always good looking, usually young women with older men both having tight, ripped, lithe, limber bodies, often with overly large breasts or penises and every woman having an amazing (and unnatural) ability to stretch any opening to accomodate anything with which they are about to thoroughly enjoy be assaulted with.

So I apologise for any misunderstanding generated by my previous post in this thread in that I do believe despite most men not seeing it that way that MOST run of the mill porn does degrade women ...and men too. The problem is the majority of people who buy (thereby encouraging) this crap think its how things should be and blame themselves when they dont match up to the reality of it.

 

i don't like some words and they very very rude i think.

 

@filltee , yes spot on. The thing that concerns me is that children are finding porn at younger and younger ages. This is where the instructional aspect of porn can be so damaging. On a personal note we caught my 8yr old son with porn on his iPad. Obviously we have taken measures so that doesn't happen again, but I was shocked that he had somehow discovered it at such a young age. I have also noticed that a lot of parents don't seem to care either. That son is now 11 and was complaining the other day that instagram and Facebook are blocked on his devices. He said all of his friends are on there. I had him prove it to me, and there it was, friends from his school all on these apps. Maybe I'm old school but I don't see how instagram and Facebook can benefit kids at such young ages. Maybe he can use them when he is in high school, we'll see