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    If you had the opportunity to show your appreciation, devotion, love for a woman, with out it being anything sexual, how and what would you do ?
    REMEMBER NOTHING SEXUAL!
     
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    Buy her some new heels :)
     
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    I just spent $1035 on a super expensive German vacuum cleaner that my wife has been wanting for years. Does that count as non-sexual?
     
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    That would do the trick! Is it a robot vacuum? I've got one but it was a lot cheaper version than that.
     
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    I try and make a mental note of the things my mistress points out to me or comments on as things she would like during the coarse of each month , then at the end of the month I will buy one of them for her , over the years she has received many gifts this way , ranging from something as simple as a pair of stockings to a new car , we are only 10 days into this month but I have a feeling her most wanted item will be a bracelet we saw in a shop on a trip out the other day ,
     
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    I try to do things everyday, some big and some small. All of these things together are an attempt to give her the gift of time. Time to sleep late on some days, to go out with friends, to sit and read a book or to play with our kids. Time for herself and her wishes, that is and will be my gift.
     
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    Every month I gift my gf a gift some big and some small. Then every week it's something simple like her favorite candy. Then I like to leave little love notes around the house then there like coupons that she can cash in for something simple I know that's dumb but she loves it. But that's what I normally do and so far it good.
     
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    Make her laugh, smile and be happy.
     
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    No specific thing does it. What seems to make her the happiest is when I do things that make her rememver that I think about her when she's not around and listen to what she's saying when she is. When some gesture, or even some small thing that I randomly see and get to bring to her, accomplishes both of those things at once, I know I've done good. I can tell.
     
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    I would dedicate a whole day pampering her with everything she likes.
    Maybe I would be forgiven for the many years I spent hard working and not even looking in her eyes to say I love her.
     
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    @Shepherdsflock, It's a perfect gift if you're the one doing the vacuuming.

    My partner likes me to take her out to dinner with a good bottle of Shiraz but I guess that's borderline non-sexual. We do use the occasions to discuss everything that's going on in our lives as the rest of the time we're both pretty busy.
     
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    A couple years ago for her Birthday I bought her a 2015 Mustang GT convertible, that would be the biggest none sexual thing I've done for her. 3 years ago I flew her to Las Vegas for a Week of treating her to spa treatments for three days that was all prearranged by me. Lately I haven't done anything, but I'm thinking about what to do next
     
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    After 45 years my wife knows how I feel about her and quite frankly would prefer that I stop smothering her with my love and devotion every day. :)

    I bought my wife a $400 industrial grade toaster from Germany. She got tired of all those regular toasters burning up portions of their heating elements so that you get an uneven toast. Heaven forbid that our toast be uneven. :)
     
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    I should also add I make breakfast for her when ever I can and wash her car in the nude every morning that I can. She also always has fresh floors at her office.
     
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    Buy her some new heels
     
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    Here are some tips that I jotted down for someone here a while ago:

    What does she enjoy for breakfast? Surprise her a couple of times a week with a wonderful wakeup call and a simple
    breakfast in bed. Maybe it’s just a good cup of coffee and her favourite jam on toast. Bring her a cup of coffee while
    she’s in bed every morning.

    • Before going to bed you could give her a tender back rub and tell her how much she means to you. Then
    embrace her and go off to sleep without any other expectations

    • Open the door for her, whether it’s the car or home or when you are out. When you go out to eat, seat her first by

    pulling out the chair for her. Make sure she is comfortable first, before you sit down. Ask her for her order then order
    for her.

    • After dinner, clean off the table and do the dishes. Invite her to take a rest. Make sure you thanked her for the good
    meal.

    • Make it a rule that you never, under any circumstances, speak unkindly to her, whether face to face or out in public to
    others. Learn to control yourself if you have a temper. Speak kindly to her, with deep respect and admiration.

    • Stop the porn and looking at other women!!! If you want to throw cold water on your relationship, keep those things
    up. She will feel violated and humiliated when she knows that your eyes and heart chase after other women… especially
    those air-brushed babes in magazines that truly don’t even exist. She can’t compete with them, nor should she feel the
    need to!

    • What is her favourite dessert? If you can’t make it, go buy it and bring it home. Enjoy some quiet time in the evening with
    the dessert, coffee, and good conversation.

    • Find out what are her dreams and desires. What would she like to see fulfilled in her life. Then, begin to take some steps
    to make that happen.

    • Ask her“What would make her feel truly loved, cherished, and honoured”. Tell her that you want to know
    because you realize that you probably don’t do a real good job in these areas and want to improve.

    • Help around the house. Don’t make her a slave to the washing machine, vacuum cleaner, stove, ironing board. Get on
    your hands and knees and wash the floor, help out with other household chores.

    • Buy some small scented candles and nice bubble bath. Send her an e-mail or call her and let her know that you
    want her to free up an hour to take a nice hot bubble bath. Put the candles in the bathroom and light them. Draw the
    water for her with bubble bath. Put on romantic music. Put some magazines in there for her to look at. While she is
    soaking, find a task that you can do to lighten her load.

    • When you are in public, hold her hand, put your arm around her. Show others that she is your woman and you are her
    man. You are taken up with her and find her altogether lovely.

    • Let her catch you staring at her, whether at home or in public. Eye her up and down and let her know how desirable she
    is to you.

    • Does she enjoy plays, operas, chick-flicks, etc.? Invite her to go out for the evening for a good meal and an event that she
    would enjoy.

    • Quit taking up so much time with your sports, bar hopping, and continuous guy stuff. You don’t have to stop all of it
    totally. But you are probably spending more time on yourself than on her.

    • Be her best friend. Develop a totally open and honest relationship with her. Don’t do something in secret that you know
    would hurt her or that would make her feel less than honored and loved by you if she were to find out.

    • Remember how to ask forgiveness and admit when you have done wrong. Let her know you are truly sorry for
    inappropriate actions or words.

    • Does she have a particular hobby? Buy a subscription to a magazine that focuses on that hobby. Watch for seminars and
    trade shows related to her area of interest and make time to take her.

    • Listen to her when she casually mentions something that she really wants. Write it down. Try to find a way to get it for
    her and surprise her for no particular reason.

    • Learn to be a giver, not a taker. Find at least 3 things that you can do every day to show her how special she is to you.
    Every day find several things to genuinely compliment her on. Don’t be fake, she will see right through that!

    • Play a board game, card game or put together a puzzle with her. She will appreciate the time with you and some great
    laughter and conversation will probably pop up.

    • Buy her something intimate and special. Highlight her beauty in ways that is very honoring to her. Make her feel
    beautiful and adored.

    • Help her by offering to do her nails, brushing her hair, setting out some clothing or lingerie for her. These little items will
    be very special for her. You will have a good time doing it!

    • Does she like a particular type of candy or chocolate? When you are out, stop in a store and see if they have what she
    likes. Put a red ribbon around it with a nice card or note letting her know that you are crazy about her.

    • Offer to run errands for her. Give her some time to herself to relax and maybe do something that she has been wanting to
    do.

    • Give good-bye and greeting kisses and embraces. You can carry those with you throughout the day.

    • Send romantic e-mails. If you do it from work, be careful that you are not violating any workplace rules.

    • Read to her. She will like to hear her man’s voice. It’s another
    level of communication that she will love.

    • Massage her feet. She will really enjoy the intimate attention.

    • If you have children, take them out for the day and give her some time to herself.

    • Bring home some fresh flowers, perfume, or her favourite bath oils or soaps.

    • Buy scented candles or incense to create a wonderful mood.

    • Put love notes where she will look; lingerie drawer, on bathroom mirror, on her dashboard, on her pillow, in her
    purse,
     
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    Many truly lovely tasks:) However I can't help get the feeling that if you her treat like a piece of china, your favorite porcelain doll all the time, you are somehow not showing her respect. What about her intellect, her ambitions, her challenges in life? How are you going to nurse and support these? jut by buying heels and writing love notes etc..?? That won't do the trick. You have to - on a intellectuel level to mach her and challenge her,. That will be excellent exercise for her and will be of great value to her as it will be to everybody else:)
     
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    Jens you have it back to front. Its up to us to to challenge his intellect and support his ambitions.
     
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    I'm pretty sure new heels is the way to go.
     
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    Treat Her to a beach / spa / shopping vacation with Her best Ladyfriends while it stays at home locked.
     
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    The KH vacation. Once a year, my KH will take a long weekend or even a week to join her friends for a fun, sometimes wild and always relaxing vacation. My task is to help her plan the trip, provide support for shopping, fun and entertainment. I stay home with the kids ensuring the house is on good order when she returns relaxed and rejuvenated.
     
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    #23 Jens, Jul 11, 2017
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    Well, I figured You would answer something like that:)
    I DO appreciate every single task you mentioned in your listing. They are all very nice and very considerate, full of devotion etc... I have done more than every single of them BTW... ;-)
    But it is a little disappointing to me that You seem so consumed with the idea of female supremacy that You think that all intellectuel tension has to be fed from female to male.
    Well, In the dynamics of Male Chastity it makes good sense. Sure. I am turned on by the very thing. I love to be ale to predict her every need or dream before it is even articulated.
    BUT if that has to be the settings for all relations between male and female., if they are nothing but eternal sub and domme, the quality of their relationsship will suffer, and the intellectual potential in the relationship will suffer too, not to mention the intellectuel capacity of the female on er own.
    ( Gosh I wish I was not limited to English, but could express myself in my native tongue, where I would be so much more at home, expressing my beliefs and objectives) .

    We all need the challenge to sharpen our senses, to improve, to excel.... female or male! Sub or domme...:)

    And females are truly more than flowers, heels, and love notes to me...
     
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    No robots required, I do nearly all of the vacuuming. It's not an FLR thing or any of that. I pretty much took over most of the housework before chastity became a part of our lives.

    I'm way more efficient at getting housework done than she is and too impatient to leave it in her hands. We have five kids and if I don't stay on top of the housework it doesn't get done. I don't say it to be mean or anything, but I really think my wife has adult ADHD. I've watched her take an hour and a half to load the dishwasher, two hours to vacuum the upstairs rooms (about 900 square feet), etc. Dishes take me maybe 15 minutes unload and reload the dishwasher, vacuuming the upstairs is a 20 minute job.
     
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    That's nice you got her a vacuum she really wanted...............hope you put a bow on it with a piece of jewelry attached, just in case you misunderstood the original request (lol)
     
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