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    shadowman6 Sweet Nikki...my wife, mistress, my raison d'etre

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    #1 shadowman6, Jun 13, 2016
    Hey everyone,

    I'm locked up again, and I love it...people who have never done this can't understand how good it feels to be locked. I can't wait to not have access to keys!

    I want my wife to have my keys ASAP...damn near gave them to her tonight. I want her on board with some things right away, most notably CBT...I want CBT!

    My question to the mistresses is what CBT do you most enjoy administering, and why? And how do I get my wife to do it? I'm willing to try it all...tease and denial, even humiliation, but how do I get her on to it?

    For all the guys, what CBT do you like to receive and why? Spare no details...I want it all...

    Thanks in advance!
     
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    #2 DonnaSue, Jun 13, 2016
    If you push Sweet Nikki too hard to give you CBT, it probably won't happen. However, if you have a good and open dialogue about each of your kinky likes and dislikes, you may find something that she would enjoy from you as much as you would enjoy a little CBT! Now, wouldn't that be nice? Mmmmm! You never know what She may be inclined to do if you served Her needs and desires really well. (After all, it's all about Her!!!)
     
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    #3 DorkyLittleBitch, Jun 13, 2016
    Just be patient and do things in HER time. Comunication is the key. Be open and honest while always remembering she is in charge. Good Luck!
     
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    #4 bondinchas, Jun 13, 2016
    You've got to be prepared for the question "What's in it for me?".

    If you can't answer that for her, then you're doing it all wrong, start again!
    and the problem with starting again, is very often she won't want to as you've already turned her off the idea.

    So, from the top... What's in it for her?
    More attention, more caresses, more little jobs getting done without asking, less demands for sex when she's not in the mood, a massage when she wants one, ... are you getting the gist?
    Do all those things, and more, and she'll repay you in kind, but it will be in her time, not to your demands.

    always remember, your complex kinks took a lifetime to develop,
    don't ask or expect her to understand, accept, appreciate and apply them all in just one evening.
     
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    shadowman6 Sweet Nikki...my wife, mistress, my raison d'etre

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    #5 shadowman6, Jun 13, 2016
    Thanks, great insight...I think I'll just let go and see where she takes it.
     
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    shadowman6 Sweet Nikki...my wife, mistress, my raison d'etre

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    #6 shadowman6, Jun 13, 2016
    Good advice, thanks...a lot to learn! I appreciate the insight
     
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