My journey to FLR marriage with husband locked in chastity

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  1. ChasteHubby2015
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    This was so eloquently explained! You ma'am are no question firm yet fair. We men don't always like what's good for us - eat your veggies, exercise, do your chores, no sugary desserts or fatty foods, no masturbation, etc. You are effectively training him that life has rewards as well as consequences. Having to stay chaste another week was probably frustrating for him, but I'll bet he won't miss his weight loss mark next week. I like how you also use it to deter any whining or complaining - it keeps him focused on improving any shortcomings.
     
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    #3 Belt >>> Cage. Switching my husband from a cage to a full belt was necessary for security, but it goes way deeper than that. Men have a sense of pride and arrogance simply based on having a cock. A good belt removes any access to his cock and pulls it back leaving a feminine flat front with no bulge at all, and it also forces the man to squat in order to pee. It has a huge psychological effect in taming the man and eliminating the masculine traits that interfere with FLR. In my husband's case it had an immediate effect on his personality and resulted in a healthy attitude adjustment.
     
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    Love hearing about other peoples journey, I only wish my partner was as stern as 'Mean Bitch' i would love being controlled in that way.
     
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    Hats off to you!
    I truly appreciate your courage to stand on your own feet and manage the family
    I think strict FLR was the only solution to your situation
    I also appreciate your husband for accepting his weaknesses and surrendering to you for good
    All the best!
     
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    Dominant women are sooo sexy!
    You are fabulous!
     
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    I love reading about your relationship. You know exactly what you want and won't except anything less. I am so envious of your husband and curious. Do you still allow PIV sex with him or do you only allow that on your hook-ups? You said that he is allowed to pleasure you orally when you are in the mood. Do you enjoy oral often? Do you enjoy anal worship? Do you allow your husband to view your naked body or lick you when he is unlocked? I would want to masturbate in your presence with my tongue in your ass or pussy. So many questions. I hope you don't mind. I am married to my wonderful wife of 44 years. The last 5 years with me in mild chastity, but strict orgasm denial. I have a hard time of topping from the bottom and am working hard to correct this bad behavior. My wife has a quick paddle response when she has had enough of my pestering. We are still learning what is right for us even after 5 years of this extraordinary dymamic. You are a Goddess and seem to easily fall into this way of life as the new norm. And it is fabulous! Please keep writing.
     
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    Thanks, you are right that I know what I want and I demand nothing less from my husband. My husband is not allowed any PIV sex, as long as he is married to me he won't be penetrating anyone. I do enjoy him pleasuring me orally and he does that on almost a daily basis. He does see me walking around nude but unfortunately I think that its frustrating for him when I do that. He is allowed to masturbate when I grant him his weekly release but he is on his own, I don't watch and he is certainly not touching me, licking me or watching me when he is unlocked.
    Congratulations on moving to an FLR, its not easy at first but is worth the effort.
     
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    Thank you so much for your response. Could you tell us about your sex life outside of home? What do you look for? What do you allow? My wife is not into sex outside of our relationship so I am enjoying the benefits of her desires for occasional PIV sex and more of her wants. I love to read about decisive dominant women.
     
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    MeanBitch, you are deliciously strict! I am seeing a confidence in my Key Holder since we adopted our FLM relationship and she locked my cock up. So much to look forward to.
     
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    Hello ma'am. I respect the arrangement you have with your husband. You seem strict but fair, he should be grateful for that.
     
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    So how do you manage your sex life outside your marriage away from you hubby ?
    Do you have a regular lover, and does hubby know ?

    starflyer
     
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    I'm just curious, why do you allow him to masturbate? Once my wife decided she no longer wanted my penis involved in sex, it was permanent chastity for me. In a FLR, I would think you would have more authority and control by not allowing him any sexual gratification ever.

    Not trying to suggest how to run your marriage, just curious why you allow him that much autonomy and freedom.
     
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    "My husband is not allowed any PIV sex, as long as he is married to me he won't be penetrating anyone."
    I love it.
    What a no nonsense statement. Your husband should be proud to be led by such a powerful and dominant goddess. His acceptance of his role in your relationship is a testament to your strength as a successful, independent, desirable woman.
     
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    Given he's in a Neosteel have you got or considered the RCES (Remote Controlled Education Shield)? Perfect for giving him a few volts right where it hurts when he needs kept in line or taught a lesson.
     
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    No Thanks, I am not interested in hormone blockers for him.

    1. He is already docile and calm. My dominant attitude and my system of rewards and punishments ensures that he is a well behaved boy.
    2. The fact that he still has a strong sex drive is important to my control. The incentive of receiving periodic releases keeps him in line.
    3. The mean bitch side of me enjoys the fact that his male hormones are active but that I have him locked up tight, and I do get a cruel pleasure out of teasing him when I am in one of those moods.
     
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    The only serious relationship that I want is the one I have with my husband. I see several other men because I enjoy PIV sex and the company of real men who are interesting and sexy. I enjoy sex on my own terms and like the variety of having different lovers. But I don't bring these men home. Its hard for my husband to handle being cuckolded while knowing that he won't be penetrating me or any other woman for that matter. He is forced to accept it, but I don't want to make things worse for him by bringing men home and having them meet.
     
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    I allow him to masturbate because a balance of rewards and punishments make our FLR work. Having periodic releases keeps him motivated and behaved. Don't worry, I have full authority and total control over him, granting him pleasure doesn't reduce my dominance. I don't think its realistic or productive to permanently deny a man any sexual gratification.
     
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    Thank You. I have been called "no nonsense" by a lot of people and am proud of it. It makes me proud that I have taken a man and put him under my total control, sexually, financially and domestically. For those that are considering it, it takes confidence and strength (and patience) to eliminate a male's masculine tendencies and make him into the ideal subservient husband, but it's worth the effort.
     
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    I have considered it. The truth is that my husband rarely needs correction any more, but it would be fun to zap him sometimes.
     
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    :):):):):)
     
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    It would be an honour to be a sub to you. Your husband is a lucky man
     
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    well i glad i don't has to be zapped.
     
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    Meanbitch, I am intrigued by your story and situation. I'm curious about the break in period for the neosteel belt. Has your husband had any issues with medical problems, pinching, aches, pains or other hangups? Did he have any sort of interest in chastity before you began your journey? And lastly, do you think it would be possible for us to hear his story? I am very interested in hearing his perspective and how it feels to be under your control. I really hope to hear more and I think your story is the most thought provoking I have read on these forums.
     
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    Pardon me for this question- being new to chastity and all the variations of play or lifestyle choices, but I guess I don't understand the whole "cuckolding" thing? If your getting your sexual desires fulfilled from someone other than your husband, who is locked and kept home to do chores etc., why keep him around- I mean you could accomplish the same thing by hiring a housekeeper and fucking your "boyfriend" as you are now? Why wouldn't you move the "bull(?)" in and have a "regular" home life? Of is that what Im missing, that the kink IS having a slave at home to dominate while getting sex elsewhere? Is your husbands kink the pure fact that he is locked up and dominated and gets only weekly masturbation allowance? My wife/KH loves to sub me and I love to BE subbed, BUT she also eventually has to have MY cock in her. She does not desire anyone elses cock and even the mention of getting a 3rd person involved is enough to piss her off ruin a good thing. In fact a while back she needed my cock so bad she unlocked me against my will and fucked me. I joked her at that point saying I could easily turn the tables on her by locking myself with a lock she didn't have the key too, and watching her suffer!
     
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