Have any members/subs considered this or are actually doing so, where a lock up is forever? Serious replies please. Many thanks
Well, - only one year into permanent it is risky to guess about the future, but she has been very firm, and also very clever to reset my taking on the matter. She has stated that it is for good, and tough as it is, I love her for it! She enjoys my struggle, it pleases her tremendously to witness my surrender, - total and absolute, - and I feel very proud, sort of... weird as it may sound to some - but permanent fuels our relations, and they have never been deeper than this.... I love being ready an willing all the time, - to please her;-)
He's absolutely right! My wife has decided to keep me locked forever, and she IS serious about it I know for sure that except for medical reasons, I will never be released She says, "I'm done with my cock, so why let it roam around free?" "Your orgasm? Why do you need that, stupid?"
Depends what you are asking as many people look at it differently. I am not locked forever without unlock. The Mrs loves to unlock me for serious, relentless tease and denials every once and a while to keep me interested and drive me crazy although it is rare. Typically 3-6 month lockups. My orgasm however, is denied permanently. I had my last orgasm ever just over a year ago and that one was ruined.
Thank you all for sharing your honest and personal insights. It is something Mistress P finds very interesting and, I think, really wants to do. She wants to deny my own sexual gratification completely so her own sexual gratification is heightened by her knowing I have been, in her words, "emotionally castrated". The very idea makes her climax but on her own as I am asked to leave the room. When I cry she just laughs. And laughs...
personally I think permanent chastity makes sense if its concensual. There is no medical reason to ejaculate. If both of you find its what makes things work, then go for it. Most guys are not up for that because they miss their ejaculations too much. But there has to still be teasing and sex otherwise its just celibacy and that is really no fun. I think @BlueEyes is a perfect example of how it could work. Him and his wife have agreed things are better with no ejaculation and they make it work.
Practically it will be completely different. Your brain will find an alternative way to sexual fulfillment.
Thanks @ineverknew - consensual is the word, - and healthy tension, - and some friction from time to time... LOL! Ejaculation denial - is far from celibacy, - in fact too many ejaculations - the heavy wanking scheme - is to me much closer to celibacy, - emotional celibacy that is... You never allow yourself the pleasures of deep and utterly horniness and intimacy.... We both know ejaculation denial is for the benefit of our relationship and mutual sexual pleasure. Of course, when times are tough I throw myself a rescue belt: To convince myself that this is purely something she has demanded, but deep down I know that I crave it just as much. In fact I was unaware how deep down I wanted this, before she ever considered to keep me from ejaculations, but she - as many I guess - had to learn to love it..... Now she has, - there is no turning back, and I can tell You what a peace in mind that is - and at the same time so damn hot, that the very thought can make me throb instantly .... Since we passed the one year mark of ejaculation denial I have really settled in, - I find myself being sexually aroused and even to some degree satisfied from simple daily chores, to make her life that much more pleasant. I love to come up with ways to top my performance in the kitchen, in the nursing and such, and she's has developed a truly lovely habit of just patting me and "Good boy" me... - with a understated, yet very firm and subtile ignition..
Not sure how I would feel about permanent denial even if I was in a relationship with the right person who wanted to do that. I'm not ruling it out I am really just not sure about it.. but then again I am not in a relationship.
Then again there is an alternative. Where he is kept locked and denied at his partners discretion. Then every year, 2 years or whatever you have a chastity holiday for a few days or even longer. I can see advantages to that for both partners. Not least that it would help you both to not take his being locked and controlled for granted or as routine.
I very much like to "take it for granted". It gives such pleasures and peace of mind... Not to deal with "WHEN?? and "IF??"
I would agree with that, it seems so much better when it is simply the default position, not an area for debate, and that's what we adopt. Although my wife tries to avoid it I have two or three "accidental" ejaculations each year which I find make things harder because from days 7 to 10 afterwards I'm climbing the walls with horniness; much respect to those who have the self-discipline to avoid such accidents.
I wish I could take it for granted. Even though we have both agreed upon it, sometimes during T&D sessions she gets me right there on the edge and threatens that she is going to make me cum although she never does. She tells me that someday she is maybe going to take me over the edge. You can't imagine how much of a mind fuck this is for me guessing all the time. She is such a good girl.
By taking it for granted I simply meant where aome could reach a point where one or both of you no longer works at it. Which for me all aspects of a relationship should be worked at to help it be all it can be for you both. Though you'd never really call it work.
I am new to this but i think my Mistress/Keyholder might go that far . I just dont think I will tell her about this. Good luck to all who do this.
I was very interested in permanent chastity for a while, it seemed like the perfect balance. Before going permanent we agreed that a 6 month stay would be what I did to really see how it effected my mental, physical and emotional state and also how it effected our relationship. After the test, one thing that I noticed most--- After about the 100 day mark, the device didn't even seem like it was there, and my emotional connection to my wife being my keyholder was lost a bit, since I knew it would be another 3 months I didn't have the drive I did to her needs. We both felt that the chastity needed the "release" at some point to keep me on edge and also to keep me knowing that I could get out but had to wait till XXX. So for us as a couple at this time, permanent chastity wasn't a good choice. With the way we use it now, I still look forward to my chores and my requirements before my chance for release. My wife also prefers me knowing it is there and not getting too comfortable with it on. Just our experience.
For us 'permanent' chastity really is an aspiration. As I've mentioned on two or three occasions per year her over-teasing or my over-sensitivity results in an orgasm. Neither of us know when this will happen, several months apart or weeks apart and neither of us is deliberately trying for this, this gives it a bit of a buzz. I think the regular milkings and teasing is enough to keep me horny and keep the dynamic going.
I read it- thanks... I especially like the: "For many men, the pleasure of pleasing a woman, how she moves, how she looks, and how she sounds is the better part of the pleasure of sex." I think that fits oh so well with BlueEyes perception, and part of the reason for this - after all very consensual - permanent denial lifestyle we are living And since I have him in the pierced cock ring and not the cage, I miss out on nothing!