It’s almost time for that day again. The day which can make you a hero or a villan in one fell swoop. This is the day to show your lady how much you love and appreciate her. To show how much you care and make her feel she is the most special person in the world. This is the day that can make and break relationships all over the world. Here is some pointers to help you avoid the most common mistakes. Firstly you must forget about what you want. This is nothing to do with your wants or desires, it is about making your partner feel loved and desired, showing that you care. So no sexy lingerie because we all know this is not for her, it’s so you can see her wearing it. That means it is a present for you and we all know it. The same goes for sex toys, sex games anything to do with sex. Just don’t go there, all it will do is show her that you only think of sex and how you will enjoy it more if she wears/plays with her new presents. So, how many of you were thinking of giving her the keys to your device as a Valentines Day gift? Come on, own up, you were, weren’t you? Let me give you a piece of advice - don’t! If your partner knows nothing about Male Chastity then it will be a nightmare. The present gets opened, she sees a key, she looks at you, bewildered, then you start to babble about locking up your cock. Valentines Day yet again has become about your desires and wants and all about the sex. Immediate turn off, which means immediate not listening to whatever you are spouting. Another year where she has to listen to her workmates/neighbours sharing the romance of the night out, the care taken in finding a present that was something she mentioned months ago. The one day a year when it should be all about what she wants, what she desires and it became all about you and some stupid kink of locking up your cock. Valentines is the one day that you should not under any circumstances do anything that is remotely related to sex. Romance, flowers, all those romcom movies, that should be your inspiration, a gift to touch her heart and soul is what is needed. A gift of your time and attention with no expectation will be appreciated and if you can add a physical gift that is something she has desired for a long time then even better. Please remember - something for the house is not a gift!! Something for your pleasure is not a gift!! A gift is something to show she is loved and adored, something that shows you understand her, you know what she enjoys. Get that right and everything else is possible. Originally posted on my blog.
It's also the day Fifty Shades of Grey - The Movie is released. So take your lady along to the movie while you are locked and let her enjoy watching you squirm beside her as she nibbles on popcorn.....
Actually I think Jules is trying to recommend avoiding doing something which is entirely for your own benefit. You might even want to consider buying her a new saucepan rather than that.
Valentine's Day is definitely all about me here because it is also my birthday. It probably makes it easier for Paul as he can just treat it first and foremost as my birthday, and he is always romantic in ways I appreciate, so he doesn't have anything to prove. I am fairly odd :-O so he tends to know my quirky tastes well enough by now.
This Valentines weekend my Wonderful's sister is getting married in Lyon, France, so we're heading off there for the weekend. It kind of steals the show a bit as far as Valentine's is concerned. Any suggestions on how to keep some of it particularly special and Valentinesy would be gratefully accepted. I was thinking about arranging to have a bouquet of flowers with a card in the room for when we arrive, along with extra pampering and general romantic behaviour. Yay or nay?
If you know someone wearing a Lori#5 these are nice. Comfy yet supportive such that PA has no strain. Moderately attractive and priced right.
If she wanted to get *me* stretchy lace panties, I wouldn't complain. I've never bought her lingerie though because it's a minefield of a gift. Get a size to big and she thinks you think that large and she's angry. Buy it too small, she feels fat. No thanks. A gift card to VS is impersonal. I may arrange flowers, and get her a gift card for gasoline along with a card that reads, "A silly gift, but I love anything that brings you back home." Practical yet just romantic enough. I make dinner and offer foot rubs already LOL
Well I love sexy undies as a gift! Which is surprising because I have two whole wardrobes and drawers of sexy underwear sets, baby dolls, basques, corsets, dress up outfits... So I obviously have an addiction! If my sub took me to see that stupid fucking film that is a complete shambles of a cock up about BDSM that is all about abuse and non consent I would leave him. For good. End of. 50 Shades of Crap. But beautifully written post and on the mark for most women. Great advice. I'm just odd.